Relations are the building blocks of a magnificent building, which we call as society. Emotions like adoring, compassion, benevolence, fidelity, tribute, reverence and charity collectively imparts durability to this gigantic building. Male and female constitute the very base of this building. Both of them are equally responsible for apt functioning of a society.But to our bad luck, a female has not been enjoying equal status and respect since ages together. Story does not stop over the infliction of irreparable loses to females by male community but it extends to the most shamefull level and that is, the infliction of pain and problems to an innocent female by the relations like mother-in-law and sister-in-laws.Here the point to ponder is that, even in spite of sharing same body and soul, the above mentioned women go up to the level of burning, killing or indulging in conspiracy against a woman who happens to be the daughter- in – law of the family.This story commences with the arrival of newly wedded bride at her in-laws’ house. At one hand where innocent bride is nervous about new home, new people, and also excited about the upcoming happy and prosperous married life with her husband and in-laws, on the other hand, as a matter of fact her mother in-law and sister-in-laws indulge in conspiracy, for making her dreamy world a bed of thorns. Infliction of pain to naïve starts with verbal attack extending to beating and then finally killing, burning or divorce.The first main reason behind this, is the unending dowry lust. Demand for dowry comes out from In-law’s side. As per the records, India has by far highest number of dowry deaths. According to National Crime Record Bureau (NCRB), in 2012 nearly 8,233 dowry deaths were reported across the country, which means that a bride is burned in every 90 minute in our country. And to your surprise, in almost every case of dowry death, husband’s family act as perpetrators.All mother-in-laws of our so-called civil society are dominated with a cheap mentality of considering a newly wedded bride as a servant rather than a new important member of their family. On the very first day, she expects all the household work to be done by newly wedded. The ‘Sapno Ka Mahal’ which a girl makes right from her adolescence to live in after marriage, soon proved to be a mirage of desert. Irony is that all other members of the family also start competing with her in household work. Why our so-called society considers that all the manual works of a family, is the responsibility of daughter-in-law only? A girl who may not know how to prepare a cup of tea is soon overburdened which all the kitchen related works. Isn’t this an exploitation of female by a female?All those fortunate girls, who by chance or by the grace of God escape from getting burnt by the murderous hands of her in-laws, enter into the next level of exploitation.This is the time when woman gives birth to her offspring. Everything goes smoothly if, the new born would be son but problem commences when she gives birth to a female baby. The first objection rises from mother-in-law side. She dispite being a female, does not feel comfy with the entry of a girl in her family.The situation becomes more grave if, second and third newly born, are also female child. It is always mother-in-law who conspires for second marriage of her son in such situations. She also blames innocent bride for not giving them the ‘Chirag of their family’. It is very hard to digest that a woman is unable to understand the emotions and feelings of another woman.A mother-in-law often forgets in such situations that she is also having daughters who can also be subjected to such exploitations some where else, but she keeps on subjecting her daughter-in-law with verbal, physical as well as psychological attacks. This atmosphere fills an innocent’s heart with hate and revenge. As we all know that on individual gives to nature what he or she receives from it. Similar is the case here, that exploited daughter-in-law, after a long painful journey of exploitation, reaches at a stage of her life when she becomes the owner and the person like mother-in-law and sister-in-laws are dependent on her. At such time she delivers back all that hate, pain and sting to them which she had got from them.This is the picture of every house. Every family is subjected to such type of proxy wars. I do not know why the relations between a girl and her in-laws are always full of hate and revenge? God gives us life once. But we people, in spite of living it happily, destroys it by petty quarrels. Irony of Indian society is that in-laws expect services from a person whom they pained the most. They expect love from a person whom they hate the most. They expect benevolence from a person to whom they were too rude. They expect care from a person whom they abandoned the most.In the end I want to say that when will abhorrence among hearts end? When will newly wedded is welcomed whole-heartedly?When will old parents are cared with love not compulsion. As per physic law to every action there is equal and opposite reaction in the similar way if one gives adore, deference, admiration and significance to others he or she will also get same in return.
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