Friendship is the most amazing and beautiful relation on this earth and we rely on our good friends. When we are sad, it’s our friend/s that makes us feel alive and confident. A lack of close relations in life is as harmful to our health as any deadly disease. A lack of strong relationships increases our risk of premature death from all causes by 50 per cent, according to one research study from Harvard University. That’s the same mortality risk as smoking 15 cigarettes a day. Social relationships reduce the risk of disease by lowering blood pressure, cholesterol and heart rate. Indeed, people with good friends will find themselves less stressed and depressed.
Every religion and culture speaks high about the virtue of friendship. Islam suggests that a good friend is one who will love and forgive us for the sake of God. A good friend is the one who accepts our shortcomings, but at the same time try harder to correct our faults. The Hindu mythology is also filled with good stories of love, courage, strength, friendship and all other possible feelings. But when it comes to friendship in Hinduism, Krishna’s and Sudama’s story is inspiring and inspirational.
A lot of debate exists today on the quality of social media friendship. Digital media channels allow us to maintain relationships that would otherwise decay. Research suggests that if we don’t meet people at the requisite frequencies, we’ll drop down through the layers and become ‘somebody we once knew.’ Social media is slowing down this rate of decay. It is equally true we may find some friends on social media who will comment, like on our posts, show great concern but they will not even bother to wish when they are present physically. But we must also believe that online friendships can also be real. Just because we can’t hang out and enjoy outings with online friends doesn’t disqualify them as real friends. Some friends will grow over the years and some will be lost over time. It’s exactly the same as any other friendship on earth. It takes courage and efforts to connect with new friends online. Good friendships only grow when people are honest in their intentions. Online friendship too needs care, love and respect. We’ve never had a 24/7 availability of friends, thanks to the web. Social media makes it easy now to greet on a friend’s accomplishments or send them well-wishes when they have a tough time. Maintaining the connectivity and mutual love, care and respect are important to build lasting relationship with both online and offline friends.
Rightly said, that a friend in need is a friend indeed. But then there are friends who need us in their need, but once we are in need or trouble and need their help, they will turn their face away. There are also people who pretend to be caring but produce de-motivations and indulge in backbiting and they can’t be our friends. We need to be very cautious in choosing our right companions. If we have got someone as a good friend then we must hold him/her for our life. We are truly a blessed person if we have at least a one good friend in life. We must value our friends who take out time to be always with us and bear our good and worse. Good friends love us from the core of their heart and they have all the magic to change our world. True friends are always special and so is their friendship.
Dr. Shahid Amin Trali,
Assistant Professor, ITM University Gwalior.
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