Q: Sometimes i feel I am busy creating a beautiful self who appears to be searching, before I can really go on the search. I am not being honest.
It is not only with you; it is with everybody who has been brought up by a hypocritical society. Its whole training is to hide your original face, to wear masks – masks which are appealing to people, appreciated by people – and always remembering to adjust according to other people’s ideas.
For millions of years, our whole way of life has been of adjustment, of compromise. And compromise with whom? With a crowd in which everybody else is also compromising, where nobody is opening up his reality – where everyone is afraid of being himself because from the very beginning he has been told, “The way you are is not going to be acceptable.”
You have to be acceptable, and that means you have to live according to ideals, formalities, manners. You have to be, more or less, an actor in a drama – and do your best. Never expose yourself, never be naked and nude. Hide yourself – first from others, and finally from yourself. Force yourself into such darkness that even you cannot see who you are.
Don’t take it as a personal problem; it is our social reality. It is the way we have been manufactured, modified, continuously painted, whitewashed – according to others’ ideas. Just because those ideas are ancient and old, and because man has lived according to those ideas for centuries, it has been thought that they must be right. Otherwise, people would have rejected them long ago. The longer an ideal has lived, the more valuable it becomes. The more rotten it is, the deadlier it is – the more respectable, the more honourable it must be.
It is difficult to fit with these ideals. It is arduous: it is a tremendous struggle against yourself, nature, existence, against life. But you have been told by your parents, teachers, priests, by everybody, and with good intentions, “Don’t assert yourself. Keep yourself out of the way, be a perfect hypocrite and your life will be successful.”
In short, it is ambition, success and desire to fulfil the ego that has been used to force you into darkness. If you want success, if you want to be honoured by society, respected by people, then you absolutely have to do one thing: never be yourself. Hide yourself, and just function according to the expectations of others.
It is this very conditioning that i am absolutely against. I want you to be yourself. It may bring disrespect; it may take away your so-called success. From being a very famous celebrity, you may become a nobody. But there will be tremendous satisfaction and contentment, and a great relaxation. Who cares, in the first place, to be crowned by idiots? It is an insult. It is not respectabiliy.
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